i still call her speaker nancy pelosi. very much open and wanting to share. women who feel secure can't give support. that's a very important element. to allow for new ideas to emerge -- not of the greatest ideas come from my office. if there are doing well, they will make me look dead. why not allow for more of that to happen? that is the management style like to see. >> is it simply talking about the pressures and how you do it? >> it is more than just talking. if you are immediately engaged, it is allowing for opportunities or allowing someone to take on any project or flush out ideas and put them in place. not everything is going to be perfect. but even if it doesn't come right, knowing someone will say it's ok. that is where you learn the most about leadership and how to perfect when it is you want to do. that happened in any environment. we need to talk about it more directly. those discussions are always taper down for women. >> what do you wish you knew when your 17? keep striving, never lose heart, is what you do after you get up and brush yourself o